How TO Lead – A Follow-Up to the “How NOT to Lead” Series

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Over the last month, I wrote a series of posts called, “How Not to Lead.” In it, I outlined 15 things that a person in a leadership position over a friend of mine did that were absolute “no-nos” for behaviors for leaders. Following is that list of 15 points:

  1. Don’t Establish Relationships with the Members of Your Team
  2. Don’t Connect with Your People on a Regular Basis
  3. Don’t Be Friendly and Conversational
  4. Do Nothing to Build Trust
  5. Usurp the Authority and Leadership of Your Team Leaders
  6. Don’t Offer Any Feedback (Positive or Negative) to Your Team Members During Their “Season”
  7. Take the Complaints of Others About Someone as the Truth Without Ever Asking the Person about Them
  8. Speak to the Two Parties Having the Problem, but Nobody Else
  9. Announce Publicly that You Are Eliminating People from Positions without Letting them Know Privately Ahead of Time
  10. Evaluate Your People Long After their Season is Over When They Have No Way to Address Your Concerns
  11. Use Hearsay, Innuendo, and “He-Said She-Saids” as the Main Basis for Your Evaluation
  12. Blast People in Your Evaluations with Only Negative Feedback and Not One Positive Comment
  13. Offer No Plan of Improvement or Offer One Only After You Have Moved People into a New Job
  14. Put a “Gag Order” on People After You Eliminate Them, So They Can’t Talk to Anyone About What Happened
  15. Lie

As you can see, most of us would consider the points on this list to be “no-brainers” of what NOT to do as leaders. Yet here we had a leader in a high profile position of some stature in a large organization do every one of the things on this list.

I will admit that this person probably did not see that he was doing these things or that these things were necessarily perceived the way they were. But quite honestly, none of these were exaggerations of what he did. And of course, my perspective is from the side of the person to whom they were done, but they still are quite shocking when you consider that this leader did all of them.

Becoming a Better Leader

So what can you do to be the best leader you can be? Obviously, a single blog post is not going to be able to cover all the points in how to be a great leader. There are thousands of books, videos, blog posts, articles, & podcasts that can help you be a better leader. You need to do all that you can to find what fits you and your personality and abilities.

What I am doing here today is giving you a variety of resources that I have found that can help you be a better leader. (After all, the name of this website is “Great Resources for Coaches”!) I am giving you titles of podcasts, books, videos, TedTalks, articles, posts, courses, and anything else that comes to mind that have helped me or that have inspired me to be a better leader. While this is the first time I am doing this, I will probably update the concept over time, since I am trying to give you a variety of resources to help you, and my focus is on coaches becoming better leaders. I actually plan on introducing a “Book-of-the-Month” page to this site to highlight some of the books that I have found inspirational. I may expand that to include more than just books.

Also, in the spirit of full disclosure, some of the books listed here are Amazon affiliate links, meaning that if you purchase them from clicking on them here, I get a small commission on the sale. However, they cost no more if you buy them after clicking on the link than you would if you went to the Amazon website on your own. Also, I am only listing things that I have either personally read and liked or use and highly recommend.

So without further ado, here is a list of resources to help you become a better leader. I would love to hear some of your thoughts on them and if you have had any connection to or with any of them in the “Comments” section.

Books

The Leadership Challenge: How to Make Extraordinary Things Happen in Organizations (J-B Leadership Challenge: Kouzes/Posner) – James Kouzes & Barry Z. Posner

Leading with the Heart: Coach K’s Successful Strategies for Basketball, Business, and Life – Mike Krzyzewski

Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action – Simon Sinek

On Becoming a Leader – Warren Benis

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success – Dr. Carol Dweck

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business – Charles DuHigg

Win Forever: Live, Work, and Play Like a Champion – Pete Carroll

Sacred Hoops: Spiritual Lessons of a Hardwood Warrior – Phil Jackson

Teaching Character through Sport – Bruce Brown

Proactive Leadership: Empowering Team Leaders – Bruce Brown

 

Videos/TedTalks

Simon Sinek – YouTube Videos

Law of Attraction – Needed for leaders – Trust, Cooperation, Empathy, & Perspective – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrBMl6noh7Q

How Great Leaders Inspire Action (Sinek’s famous TedTalk from his book Start With Why) – https://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_how_great_leaders_inspire_action

How to Be a Great Leader – 12 TedTalks on becoming a great leader –                 https://www.ted.com/playlists/140/how_leaders_inspire

9 Inspiring Leadership Videos – https://www.resourcefulmanager.com/leadership-videos/

 

Podcasts

Coaching for Leaders – Dave Stachowiak –  www.coachingforleaders.com – The motto for this podcast is “Leaders aren’t born; they’re made.” I have listened to this podcast for about a year now, and I have gotten so much from so many of them. Read through the titles and descriptions to see what would interest you most. Here are a couple that really resonated with me:

http://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/301/ – Patrick Lencioni on the Ideal Team Player

http://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/263/ – Susan Gerke – How to Benefit from Conflict

The Look & Sound of Leadership – Tom Henschelhttp://essentialcomm.com/podcast – Leadership lessons in a story format

School of Greatness – Lewis Howes https://lewishowes.com/blog/

Just started listening to this one, and I can tell this is going to be another good one that will be a regular in my rotation. Here are a couple of good ones so far:

https://lewishowes.com/podcast/e-brendon-burchard-high-performance-habits/

https://lewishowes.com/podcast/unstoppable-in-tennis-business-and-life-with-maria-sharapova/

Finding Mastery – Michael Gervaishttps://findingmastery.net/category/podcasts/

Just found this podcast recently, and all that I have listened to have been outstanding. Three stand out as of now.

https://findingmastery.net/jon-gordon-2/ – Great interview with leadership guru Jon Gordon

https://findingmastery.net/shaka-smart/ – Outstanding interview with Texas Men’s Head BB Coach

https://findingmastery.net/pete-carroll/ – Inspiring interview with the Seattle Seahawks Head Coach

This is Your Life – Michael Hyatt – https://michaelhyatt.com/thisisyourlife – While the podcast seems to have been on a hiatus for a while, go through the archive of episodes. Michael Hyatt is one of the best minds and voices I have ever heard talking about leadership.

Hardwood Hustle – Adam Bradley & TJ Rosene – http://hardwoodhustle.com/every-episode-ever/  – While its focus is basketball-oriented, there are so many great nuggets in this podcast that anyone in a leadership position can benefit from. By the way, Episode 26 might be the best ever (okay, that’s because I was on it!)

 

Articles/Posts (While many of these are from business publications, the lessons on leadership apply in sports, too.)

8 Fascinating Leadership Articles to Read Right Now – Conant Leadership – https://conantleadership.com/the-8-best-leadership-links-to-read-right-now/

The Most Important Leadership Competencies, According to Leaders Around the World – Sunnie Giles – https://hbr.org/2016/03/the-most-important-leadership-competencies-according-to-leaders-around-the-world

Our 10 Most Popular Leadership Articles of 2016 – Angie Klein – http://www.beleaderly.com/our-10-most-popular-leadership-articles-of-2016/

Leadership Is About Emotion – Meghan M. Biro – https://www.forbes.com/sites/meghanbiro/2013/12/15/leadership-is-about-emotion/#c5721b82d3ff

Top 10 Qualities That Make A Great Leader – Tanya Prive – https://www.forbes.com/sites/tanyaprive/2012/12/19/top-10-qualities-that-make-a-great-leader/#41f8ed737754

What it Means for a Coach to Be a Leader – Ohio University – http://onlinemasters.ohio.edu/what-it-means-for-a-coach-to-be-a-leader/

Leadership Style Discovery in Performance Coaching – Joe Giandonato – (Geared toward personal trainers, but applicable to everyone) https://www.elitefts.com/education/training/sports-performance/leadership-style-discovery-in-performance-coaching/

 

Courses

5 Days to Your Best Year EverMichael Hyatt – While the focus of this 5-day course is to develop goals to help you be your best and then follow up on those goals, I found the course to be extremely beneficial to me in my leadership roles. Hyatt opens up enrollment in the course once a year, right around the first of the year. I will be sending out information on how to sign up as we get closer to his next enrollment period.

2 thoughts on “How TO Lead – A Follow-Up to the “How NOT to Lead” Series

  1. Thank you very much for the great list!! Jon Gordon, Andy Andrews, Jerry Lynch, & Mike Neighbors are also great motivators for coaches as well as people in general. Looking forward to reading and watching your gift list. Oz

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